Funerals and funeral planning can often present a lot of unanswered questions. Locke Funeral Services proudly offers our community four generations of experience to help guide them through those uncertain times. After more than 75 years in the funeral and cremation industry, we want to address some of the questions that may come with attending a funeral or cremation service. Join us today as we explore these ten common funeral etiquette questions.
- What should I wear to the funeral?
- Because a funeral is typically a somber event, conservative and respectful tones like black, navy, and dark grey are usually worn. Men often wear a suit or, dress slacks with a shirt and tie. Women typically wear a pantsuit, a nice blouse, or a dress.
- Should I bring a gift?
- Flowers are a wonderful way to show the family of the deceased your condolences. Many funeral homes will have a preferred vendor they use to make sure timely delivery of your flowers.
- Some people may opt for a memorial gift instead of flowers. This could be a donation in the deceased’s name to a charity or to a memorial donation created by the family.
- When should I arrive for the funeral?
- It is polite to arrive at least 15 minutes before the funeral service is scheduled to start. If you are late, you may be asked to remain outside until the service concludes so you don’t interrupt.
- Should I sit in the front or back of the service?
- It is traditionally appropriate to reserve the first few rows for family members and very close friends of the deceased. The middle and back rows are typically thought of as open seating. If the room is divided into two parts, the right side is thought to be for family and the left side is for friends, coworkers and other acquaintances.
- Should I try to console the family?
- A simple hug or pat on the shoulder is often appreciated. There is no need to avoid talking about the person who has passed. In fact, keeping their memory alive is a wonderful way to bond with others and begin to heal.
- Is it appropriate to take pictures or videos during the service?
- No, it is not appropriate to take pictures or videos during the service.
- Is it appropriate to talk during the service?
- No, it is generally not appropriate to talk during the service. Please also remember to silence all your electronics before, during and immediately after the service.
- Should I offer to help the family with anything?
- Offering to help with any tasks or mundane chores during the grieving process is often appreciated. You could even start or contribute to a meal train to ensure the family has some home-cooked meals while they go through this major life event.
- Should I attend the burial service?
- The immediate family, close friends, and other invited guests would typically attend a burial service. If the family does not make an announcement, the burial service might be a private event for family. Some families will choose to have a funeral reception after the burial which can be either private or public.
- Should I bring my child to a funeral or memorial service?
- This is going to be a personal question specific to the child and the funeral itself. Things to consider would be the age and maturity of the child, their relationship to the deceased and the child’s own feelings on funerals and grieving.
If you still have questions about attending a funeral or if you’re starting arrangements for yourself or a loved one, trust the compassionate team at Locke Funeral Services. Reach out today at 319-233-6138 – you can also visit our website to learn more about our services.
